As a high achiever, you do all the right things, but still feel as if the stresses of relationships, health and your life is killing you from the inside out.
Meet Barb: A doctor in her 50’s, was at a loss. She was smart and successful, but there was one area in her life she could not get under control. She had been overweight for decades, and the pounds just kept creeping on. Nothing she tried was sustainable.
A deep sense of disconnection and isolation from herself and others pervaded Barb’s life. It was confusing to struggle when those around her did not. Barb was ashamed by the contrast with her husband. Both he and her friends, none of whom struggled with their weight, made it look so easy. They were not people she could talk to about this.
Barb was not used to failure – and it was making her feel weak and out of control.
High achievers are so used to doing well, they expect to do well all the time. Expecting greatness of yourself is one thing, but beating yourself up is just not okay.
When they try to talk about their struggles with other professionals, their spouse or friends, they get pat answers, unhelpful advice or misery-inducing sympathy. What’s missing? Answers that actually help.
Everyone talks about developing skills and qualifications, and high achievers have those in spades. But virtually no one talks about developing your connection with the beauty in your life and connection with yourself and your own intuition.
Over the years, you learn to listen to experts and use self-denial as a method for reaching goals. This makes it hard to connect with your intuition about what you need to reach your own goals.
Are you wondering how Barb transformed?
After she worked with me as her holistic health coach, she was amazed at the transformation.
“I feel so different than I did a year ago. Instead of worrying that I’m going to be an unmentionable weight, I have tools, strategies and hope. I am an active participant in my wellness – and it’s working!”